What life doesn’t teach us as it happens

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Military Training

Funny thing about the military is our general lack of appreciation for what it is teaching us about life as it happens.

I remember being forced to sit left or right Indian style in boot camp thinking, “Why the hell do they make us do it one way.”  Well, it turns out that this is the only position to shoot an M-16 while sitting.

Another classic is how the military has very precise shaving regulation for men.  Turns out that in combat when you get gassed, and you put a gas mask on it needs a tight seal for you to survive.  Guess what, that is not happening if you have a five o’clock shadow.

The reason I bring these up is that the military was teaching us a whole lot more at the time, but it isn’t till later in life that we can fully appreciate the life the military gave us.

For me, it wasn’t till I was in the world of business leading a team and recognizing the similarities to being a Platoon Sgt.   For me, the military was teaching me the value of leadership, personal development, and never letting your team settle.

Recognizing Potential

My awareness of this took an approximately six-year detour where I wasn’t leading a team but just doing what I needed to do.  It wasn’t until I had hit rock bottom in building the life I was supposed to, also known as getting a degree in something I loved but wasn’t good at and ended dropping out.

If you have ever dropped out of college, you know the feeling that the green yard you were planning on getting to on the other side of the fence just dried up and your left with the worst question ever “What do I do now.”

It wasn’t until I went to a leadership seminar that I realized the passion I once had for leading and that it had just become dormant.  This seminar became my pivot point where I decided that my future would be a mastery of leadership.

One Moment

This moment is also where my self-help journey began, and that was about four years ago.

What this moment taught me just like the ones in the military we can’t always see the purpose of the events in our life as a critical step in getting where we ultimately need to be.  For me, if I hadn’t dropped out of school I might not have been truly at rock bottom to find my way back up in a new direction.

I have met plenty of people that only realized their life purpose after a traumatic event happened in their life.

A close friend didn’t find his love for speaking and writing until he had to go through 5 years of hell struggling with PTSD.

If you follow John Lee Dumas, he only found his purpose in life while sitting in traffic in Los Angles for hours at a time.

Some people call this destiny; others just call it fate.  I am not a fan of labeling it anything other than LIFE!

So, next time we get a moment in our lives that just seems to be you at your worst, you never know if this might be exactly where you need to.

I leave you with an interesting video on the story of Play Doh, you never know if your just one pivot away from your true purpose 4 life.


Also published on Medium.

By | 2017-09-16T14:50:41+00:00 June 24th, 2017|Leadership, Life, Uncategorized|4 Comments

About the Author:

I am currently on a path to learn, observe, and develop a mastery of leadership.

My journey to become a Marine taught me many things about life and one of them was Marines are natural born leaders.

I believe more and more everyday that our problems small to big can be solved through devoted leadership, clear vision, and a great team behind them.

I have learned that the best leaders of our time have never stopped learning and will never admit they are finished , but just crossing another mile stone on the roads of success.

Everyday that I am on my journey I become more excited of my future destination and meeting my future self.

You can have everything in life, if you just help enough people get what they want. Zig Ziglar

Core Values:
Trust, Integrity, Balance, Curiosity, Wisdom, Growth, Authenticity

  • Hi Ben,

    Fascinating point about the close shave in the military; certainly makes sense. I had no clue that John Lee found his purpose while spending hours in traffic. For me it was getting fired from my security guard job, said job being super easy but in the same regard,kinda soul draining too. Thank goodness I was given the pink slip. Thanks for the share 🙂


    • Ben Killoy

      JLD story gets a little crazy, he was in traffic so much that he ran out of podcast to listen to and he really wished someone would do a daily podcast.

  • Ernest Gonzales

    Ben, this is so very true. You know a lot of my story and it wasn’t until I met you and a few others there that really set me on this path going forward. You were there during one of my hardest times in life and without knowing it, you helped me push threw it. Your guidance and support really helped ignite my passion again and find my true purpose. So thanks for one, believing in me l. Two, taking a chance on me. Three, helping me find my true path in life. Keep up the great work!!!

    • Ben

      Thank you for the comment, I will always consider you a friend and you helped me remember who I was as well.