My Veteran Transition Story

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Why didn’t they say life after serving was going to be the next hardest battle we faced as Veterans?  Maybe they did and that was just the part I was too tired to remember.

I remember about one year after the transition from the Marine Corps reflecting on my choices when I first got out and thought, “I had no idea what I was doing.”  Doing a lot of “should have done this or that” in my head they made me spiral down even further into regret and forgetting the future I still had in front of me.  I was living in the past.

Unfortunately, I continued down the path I was on without making any changes in my life for the next three years.  It wasn’t until it all fell apart and I dropped out of the College of Engineering after only finishing my associate’s degree.  If this wasn’t enough, it turns out I was still digging my way to rock bottom.  I proceeded for six-months of asking myself the question “what do I do now?” and it went unanswered for weeks.

My first child turned one during this time frame, and it was hard looking at her not knowing what kind of father I was going to be too her.

It wasn’t until I went to a seminar to become a supervisor where some sparks started to come back.  I had a passion for leadership.  It had never left me, but went dormant after leaving the Marines.  I realized at this moment that a mastery of leadership was my target.  Everything I had loved doing in my life up to this point was a summary of being a great leader.  I wanted to lead teams and individuals to take more significant action and achievement.

What came out of this was a burning desire to read and consume as much information as I could on the subject.  What transpired was an overload of information, but not a lot of action, just paralysis.  This desire took me down another path of, this isn’t working, now what (sound familiar?).  I started to doubt myself that I had even made the right choice with leadership.  Maybe I needed to just stick with what I was OK at doing.  I remember thinking maybe this is all just bull shit that they convince you of, but, life is meant to be an 8-5 job that just pays the bills.

It wasn’t until I added one last ingredient into the mix that clarity began to emerge, people!  Sounds stupid, but the fundamental interactions with like-minded people pursuing the same path helped me niche down further in my purpose and desire and begin to cultivate the action that I had been missing for so long, but was desperately needing.

Eight months later I am making the connections I needed, making the choices to deliver results I hadn’t seen.  I am still working through, but without struggle, we cannot have growth.

“If you want something you have never had, you need to do something you have never done.”

Today, I share my story and work with individuals who are transitioning through any stage of life as a veteran or soon to be veteran.  There is a true purpose 4 life after serving, and I now get to enjoy helping others discover theirs.


Also published on Medium.

By | 2017-08-30T20:23:02+00:00 August 28th, 2017|Transition, Veteran|0 Comments

About the Author:

I am currently on a path to learn, observe, and develop a mastery of leadership. My journey to become a Marine taught me many things about life and one of them was Marines are natural born leaders. I believe more and more everyday that our problems small to big can be solved through devoted leadership, clear vision, and a great team behind them. I have learned that the best leaders of our time have never stopped learning and will never admit they are finished , but just crossing another mile stone on the roads of success. Everyday that I am on my journey I become more excited of my future destination and meeting my future self. You can have everything in life, if you just help enough people get what they want. Zig Ziglar Core Values: Trust, Integrity, Balance, Curiosity, Wisdom, Growth, Authenticity