I find the voice inside my head repeating “you are out of options.” I have worked through some problems in my life where I feel that I am at my wit’s end.
It’s a feeling that almost everyone has experienced at some point in their life.
Maybe it’s something related to work, our personal life, family. Doesn’t matter the feeling is the same and it’s a real feeling that we can’t ignore.
Before writing this post, I decided to meditate first as it wasn’t clear in my mind of what story to tell. At the end of my ten-minute session, all that remained in my head was “out of options.” It’s a horrible feeling to face a problem and just not know what to do.
The out of options thought wasn’t a stranger in my head. In some cases, I was able to overcome and still be able to create opportunities to move forward and get closer to the solutions.
Others not so much, but after mediation tonight even though this thought was hanging around still, I had a big idea moment.
Early in my career, I had been a technical support agent for generators. The callers would have what I coined as the classic plea for help, “I have checked everything, but it is still not working.”
The best part of this sentence is that if they did indeed check everything, then it would be working. The company I worked for at the time had great manuals with exact flow charts for problems and similar test.
If you’re at the end of the flow chart and it’s still not working that doesn’t mean the flow chart is bad, just that you missed something.
My advice would be to take what they tested, throw it out, and start back at the top and recheck it. Nine times out of ten they would find the problem with this mentality.
How does this relate to the idea if we have the thought “out of options” in our head?
For me, it was a calm reflection looking back and asking; had I implemented all the advice. Am I improving in the areas I said I needed to?
For me, the answer was a big NO … I had left so much on the table when I looked at it from this point of view.
Our minds are sometimes the greatest magicians in our lives, and sometimes we don’t even know when it’s a deception.
Just like the feeling of being broken, the one that you feel you back is against the wall can be just as terrifying.
Sometimes it can seem like a dense fog has poured in. Even if there were a clear path full of options, we wouldn’t even be able to see it.
However, pausing just for the extra minute and asking this one question be only needed to cut through the fog and getting moving again.
Am I doing everything I wanted to change my situation?
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